How?

I'm wondering how this could happen.

I understand that you didn't know what he was doing until it had already occurred, but what I can't understand is why you said nothing. I felt so violated. You know how private I am and about sex of all things. That is a subject I am extremely private about.

So, you see, I fail to understand how you could not say anything about it, even just a "That wasn't cool;" particularly when you know how much it upset me. You love me, I know you do, so how could you allow someone to speak to me that way.

I wouldn't hold you responsible for this, but since you said nothing to him, I do, just a little. It's not going to be easy for me to trust you about this for a bit. You'll have to earn my trust back and I will not talk about anything involving sex online again for an extremely long time.